I have the best friends. Literally; for every mood I could possibly have I have a friend that can either facilitate it or get me out of it and I love them dearly. It so happened that one day I was having a conversation with one of these girls and she said she thinks that if I wanted to be an A+ student she had no doubt that I would be. Initially, I was immensely flattered- I mean I was of course an intellectual bad-ass if I had the potential to be Awesome and CHOSE not to be *snaps fingers* But on closer examination I realized that I was communicating a very unfortunate message to my friend: Firstly, I didn’t want to be an A+ student and secondly, I simply chose not to be. And at that moment reality hit me upside the head that there was nothing less bad-ass than choosing not to be the awesome that I could be.
The thing with mediocrity is it doesn’t happen overnight; it starts with small decisions. The accepting of the B+ when we know we could have gotten the A, the striving just for the finishing line rather than sticking our heads out for first place or the holding back because we are afraid of falling flat on our faces. Okay, maybe the latter is reason to hold back but seriously What’s more embarrassing than being a second rate version of you? I ask myself when did I stop wanting to be the best and perhaps it started when I got into deeply intellectual conversations where I would come to the conclusion that we were all striving to be the best and when we were all the best it would be an anomaly and I just wouldn’t be special anymore because I would just be another person like the rest or perhaps it started when it just seemed like the more comfortable of the decisions, but either way in holding back I just became the disappointed girl with okay grades and a confused state of mind. I had talked myself out of being the best and had lost my passion as a result.
You see there is nothing wrong with being passionate and there is nothing wrong with wanting to be the best, even if you end up becoming one of the best because what would have mattered is that you gave of your best. It wasn’t a watered down, candle under a bushel version of yourself but an unapologetic, confident individual who wasn’t afraid to show themselves and by extension the world their true form. Our potential is usually seen by those we are surrounded by but there is a time in our lives when we need to see it, recognize it and claim it for ourselves. Have a first person view of yourself: You are smart, your dreams are valid and worth pursuing. Want them with every particle of your being and choose to pursue them with the best of your ability.
And most importantly, be deliberate in your pursuit. Your achievements are not just sheer luck or some freak accident, it was the result of hard work and dedication and you have a right to not only say it was but also be proud of your effort and the fruits of your labour. Don’t trivialize your success to make someone else feel better (don’t quote me to support your bragging habits either) because it will only make them feel comfortable where they are which will lead to a very serious sense of complacency
But I digress-
The point is Want to be the best and Choose to pursue it; whether it be grades, a dream career, your own business or invention. You owe the best version of yourself that.